Long distant relationships come with their own unique challenges. It’s hard, I agree, but there are people who are making it work. To have a healthy long distant relationship, there must be a close and constant communication. Nowadays it’s a lot easier than it used to be. Now we have Skype, computers, tablets and smart phones.

I tell people that long distant relationship is not for everybody. It works for some people and don’t work for others. For me, I like long distant relationship. I love space, I love seeing my man once in a while. My love for him grows when I miss him so much. Absence they say makes the heart grow funder.  For others they love to see their partners every day. They feel they are giving room for infidelity if they don’t see often. Whatever works for you, go for it.

What kills long distance relationships is lack of communication. Take the time to figure out how and when is best to communicate with each other, especially video calls. Work at making each other feel special, even without seeing each other. Be open, honest, and trusting.  Just because you’re apart doesn’t mean that you’ve lost your need for intimacy and self-esteem, so take every opportunity to make each other feel good and encourage each other. You could write each other love letters, beautiful poems, or even send each other little gifts for no reason. Whatever it is – the most important thing is that thought goes into it, and that you make each other feel special

To maintain a long distance relationship, there must be an end goal, for example being reunited and being with each other at the end of that year. Without that end goal, it will really be difficult to sustain a long distance relationship. Not knowing when you’re going to be properly reunited with your partner makes you feel uncertain, anxious and worried about whether he or she’s seeing somebody else. That’s why the most important thing is knowing when you’re both seeing each other again.  If you don’t have dates for reuniting, it’s only natural for couples to drift apart.

The hardest part is saying goodbye and counting down the months, weeks and days till next time. But in, you know they are worth the wait.